Marriage is not a intelligent move

246PM GMT twenty-three March 2010

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Dear Graham

I separate up with my partner since I didnt feel things in between us were right. We were vital together, so it was all a finish calamity and she was unequivocally upset. She altered true out, withdrawal me to prepare a outpost to take afar her stuff.

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The second she was out of the doorway I proposed to unequivocally miss her, so majority so that when she came behind with the removal outpost the following week, I asked her to move behind in. She looked somewhat confused so I afterwards combined that I longed for to wed her.

I could listen to the difference entrance out of my mouth but didnt feel continuous to them. She pronounced "yes", so afterwards I had to phone her father and desire him to pardon me for transfer his daughter and ask for her palm in marriage. Now I keep removing these waves of be scared that Ive finished the wrong thing. What should I do?

Brad, Devon

Dear Brad

I fright you competence be a Sense and Sensibility short of a finish set of Jane Austens. And your partner isnt fasten Mensa anytime shortly if she supposed a matrimony offer from a man who had usually organized her removal van. Both of you need to ease down. If you cant speak to your fianc about your feelings afterwards removing tied together unequivocally doesnt appear similar to a intelligent move. But if you try, it competence be simpler than you think. I pledge she will be carrying doubts too, so since not voice yours. Heres a tip dont usually blurt out "I dont wish to wed you!"

Surely removing tied together and divorced inside of usually a couple of months is a lot worse than a couple of worried conversations? Just ask Britney Spears.

Dear Graham

I went to college in the United States 10 years ago and done a close crony there who I after lost hold with. On the one arise my afterwards boyfriend, right away husband, met her, he took a horrible be vexed to her.

At the time she had usually come out as a lesbian and was using a womens retreat centre in Chicago. Perhaps since of the horrors she sees on a every day basis, she seems to have a unequivocally spiky perspective to men generally.

After tracking me down on Facebook she has asked if she can come and stay with us for a week with her long-term girlfriend. She knows no one in London and since her affability to me when I was a tyro in the US I feel the slightest I can do is put them up.

My husband, a routinely unequivocally passive and easy-going person, is confounded at the idea. Any advice?

Ella B, west London

Dear Ella

Forget the guilt. Ten years competence be a prolonged time to be friends with someone but the actuality is you havent been close to this lady for a small time. All you have in usual is that you used to be friends.

A decade after this lady has tracked you down and lo and spy is formulation to revisit London. To see you? No. You are simply a poor pick to an hotel.

If you lived alone, carrying her to stay wouldnt be a problem. But dont get confused you owe this lady nothing. Tell her that it would be poetic to see her whilst she is on vacation the desirable if costly city but sadly you and your father dont have room for them.

Ignore this recommendation and you will have one of the longest, majority appalling weeks of your life. I have frequency felt some-more sure of anything.

Dear Graham

My dual daughters are spooky with Barbie dolls. My mother tells me that this is utterly normal, but what worries me is that my six-year-old son has proposed to fool around with them too.

Twice right away Ive held him in the girls bedroom, personification with their Barbie caf. His Barbie (shes called Nina apparently) was sitting at a table, enjoying a coffee and catch-up with Nicky and Kate, his comparison sisters Barbie dolls.

Ive attempted shopping him Lego and Star Wars toys but he doesnt similar to them. Is this usually a proviso or should I anathema him from personification with them?

Chris, Hertfordshire

Dear Chris

Im not sure if you are aware, but I do not have children. I do, however, have a deceptive correlation of being one. I appear to stop that the notation I was told I couldnt do something it became the usually wake up that meddlesome me. Little has altered usually declare me when Im told the club is about to stop serving.

Im not utterly sure what the complaint is but I think the something to do with not wanting your six-year-old son to be gay. Trust me, homosexuality cannot be held from created pinkish cosmetic by Mattel, differently Im sincerely sure there would be labels on the packaging. Playing with dolls is a pointer of something, not a cause, and who knows what that thing is.

The universe of Barbie is glamorous and seductive. I challenge any one to conflict the captivate of a pinkish dune buggy. Dont be as well old to sense a profitable doctrine from your small child about being open and non-judgmental.

There is copiousness of time for the universe to give him a formidable about his likes and dislikes. Surely the your pursuit to simply love him and await him no make a difference what?